Sarcasm is fun until it no longer is. October 1st, Exhibit A.

Before I begin this story time, it’s important to share a few reminders with my fans, followers, and everyone in between. There’s a lot that goes on behind the scenes and on stage, so the purpose of these posts is to inspire others to evolve through trial and error.

Sarcasm is fun because its similar to play fighting. It’s a mix of seriousness and funny but it can often be taken the wrong way when dealing with overly sensitive people. What was funny at first can turn into something to yell about in two seconds, so I have been more considerate these days than I was in the past.

If you notice me mentioning domestic violence often, know that I do it for two reasons:

• I see too many small situations that escalate because of trauma and ego
• to #SilenceTheShame

Domestic violence can happen when you least expect it, and it’s difficult to predict what will trigger it that day. Look at the statistics but don’t ignore the cases that go unreported and don’t forget about the victims and survivors who nobody believes. Yesterday, and the night before that, and the week before that, all add up to a minimum of 50 unreported cases of domestic violence. That’s 50 times of harm swept under the rug from the East to the West and beyond. That’s 50 times of negativity that will likely be projected onto the next co-worker, stranger, or classmate because the negativity had no real place to go when it was all said and done.

Story time: I just finished watching Brandie Blaze’s interview and she spoke about a few great topics. What stood out to me was her decision to take herself more seriously and no longer allow others to drain her. Showing up for other people is fun and sarcasm is funny but not if it is negatively affecting you or someone that you care about.

When a situation or person is out of control, be so comfortable in your own skin that no one can make you jump out of character unless you want to. It has to be your choice, not your emotions that takeover every time you don’t get the answer or desired outcome that you want. “They will bring you to their level. And beat you with their experience,” says Malia Lazu, author of From Intention to Impact: A Practical Guide to Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion.

Looking for more music and updates? Check out previous posts here:

• Addiction to Conflict | “The Plug, The Outlet”
• No Passes, Say No Sometimes | “Character“
• “Behind the Music: Who is KikidotD?“
• TV with KikidotD and Miggy

So many people are living with their abusers, working for their abusers – surviving but not thriving. Feeling but not expressing. Welcome to the #IGrowUGrowWeGrow movement, where we mix education and entertainment into playlists and theaters near you.

“I’m ‘Kiki’ to some and ‘Kiki.D’ to all.” – KikidotD

Blog Post #36